by Connie Cavanaugh
The questions are few enough but broad enough that you can shorten or lengthen this study guide to fit your plan. If you want to take your time, just cover one chapter per session. If you want to cover more ground, divide this into three or four weeks and discuss a section at a time. Remember, the key to any group is the group not the information discovered or discussed. Let this material help your group grow together in love as you follow God.
A Missed Turn:
Have you ever lost your way as you have attempted to follow God? Were you surprised when that happened? Explain.
Read the list on pp 13, 14 entitled: “Is this book for me?” and share with the group what statement describes where you are right now. If there isn’t one, add your own.
Chapter 1: The Dream
Describe one of the dreams God has given you to pursue (see the list of possibilities under the heading A Purpose, A Promise, a Plan on p 21).
Read aloud and discuss the definitions of God’s Purpose, Promise and Plan (pp 21,22).
Identify God’s purpose, promise and plan for one of your dreams.
Read the “Barriers to Saying Yes” To God’s dream for you on pp 26, 27. Which of these have you dealt with most often?
PART 1 -- ONE YES AT A TIME
Chapter 2: Simple
Reread “Dash and Dive” to the end of the chapter on pp 44, 45. Explain the concept of how following God can be simple in your own words.
“God almost always takes us straight into enemy territory.” (p 45) Do you agree with this statement? How is this true in your life? Name some “enemies” you face as you try to follow God.
Chapter 3: Immediate
Reread the section “Say Yes Now” on p 56 and identify the three facets of what is meant by “immediate” in the context of this book.
Are you pursuing a dream but are unsure whether or not it is from God? Ask yourself the questions in the bulleted list on p. 51.
Chapter 4: Possible
We realize the impossible by saying yes to the simple, immediate, and possible (p. 67). Describe a time when this has been true in your life.
Sometimes “possible” means “recalculating.” (p 67) Have you had to make adjustments in one or more of your dreams?
What were some benefits of making the change?
Were you able to make that adjustment or did the dream die? Explain.
Chapter 5: God Speaks
Ask yourself the questions in the bulleted list on pp 72, 73
“Embracing your God-hunger is the beginning of actively listening and earnestly seeking.” (p 75) What does this statement mean to you? Do you agree?
Reread “Let’s Review” under the heading What’s Next on p 81. Can you tell of a time when God has pursued you, grabbed your attention, given you a dream, and you have followed Him one yes at a time?
PART 2 -- PROOFS
Chapter 6: Chocolates
You’d better get up right now and go get some!
Reread pp 85, 86. Do you recognize the way God puts “chocolates” (incentives/rewards) on your trail when you follow Him? Describe one of those experiences.
What are the four “proofs” God gives us to let us know we heard Him right and we are on the right path? (p 92)
Chapter 7: Peace
“Peace is the acceptance of who you are in the midst of your weakness and the assurance that God is sufficient.” (p 102) Do you agree with this in light of what Paul says in 2 Corinthians 12: 6-11. Is this true in your life? Explain.
Has there been a time in your life when God proved Himself to you by sending a peace that “passed understanding”?
Chapter 8: Power
Has God given you the power to forgive (like Agnes: pp 108, 109) or the power to love (like Connie: pp 111-115) or the power to do something beyond what you thought was possible? Tell us about it.
What three assurances do God’s proofs give us as we follow Him? (p 117 And when we experience His power, we have proof that…)
Chapter 9: Provision
“How can we reconcile a loving God with a hurting world? How can we say God provides when so many people suffer such great losses?” (p 129) What do you think?
“He wants to use our stories as proof to others that he is real, He is alive, He cares.” (p 130) How is God using your story?
Chapter 10: Presence
“To experience God’s palpable presence, I had to say yes with my feet and go after the dream He gave me.” (p 139) Is this true in your life also? Explain.
Describe the last time you had a sense of God’s presence. What was it like? How did you know it was Him? What did it mean to you at the time?
Part 3 -- BARRIERS
Chapter 11: Fear
What is the difference between human fear and godly fear? (p 151)
Has fear been a barrier that has held you back from following God? Explain.
What is one small yes God is asking you to say that will help you overcome a fear?
Chapter 12: Pride
“Pride knows I’m always right” (p 159). “Pride has an image to maintain” (p 161) What do these statements mean to you?
Has pride been a barrier that has kept you from following God? Explain.
What is one small yes God is asking you to say that will humble you and help you overcome the barrier of pride?
Chapter 13: Guilt
“Most of us deal with guilt in small helpings. But large or small guilt has the same effect.” (p 175) What does guilt do to our relationship with God?
Describe a time when guilt has hindered you in your relationship with God.
What is one small yes God is asking you to say that will remove a barrier guilt has erected in your life?
Chapter 14: Shame
“Shame keeps things hidden, transparency reveals. Shame covers up; transparency uncovers.” (p 182) Do you agree? Are you ready to uncover something of which you are ashamed? (note: never reveal information that may harm innocent people. You may feel great for getting it off your chest but you may unkindly burden someone else in the process)
Describe a time when shame has kept you away from God?
Is God asking you to say one small yes in regards to something for which you are shameful? What is it?
Chapter 15: Comparison
Reread the story on pp 189, 190 about Jim the racecar driver. Are you watching someone else’s trunk? Describe what it makes you feel like and what it makes you want to do when you watch someone in front of you.
Has comparison ever made you feel like you want to quit pursuing your dream? Did you quit? Why not?
Is there a “yes God” step you know you can take to help overcome the “comparison barrier”? What is it?
Chapter 16: Doubt
Faith is “not a noun. It’s a verb—an action. It’s not something we have but something we do. Everybody starts out with the same amount of faith, which is the size of a mustard seed. And it never really grows bigger….but it does get stronger.” (p 209) Do you agree? Explain why or why not.
Can you relate to the man who told Jesus, “Lord I believe, help thou my unbelief!” Does your doubt cause problems for you as you try to follow God?
What is one simple yes you can say to God in regards to your doubt?
Reread Alana’s story of facing her fear on the High Ropes course on pp 211-213. Do you have a similar story of following God into the unknown, the fearful, the challenging? Tell it.
If you don’t have such a story, are you ready to say yes to God’s dream for your life and follow Him one yes at a time? Share with the group what you think God is saying to you right now.